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Have you called your mother today? Day 21 of 152… A Day of Celebration

Psalm 145:7
A Time of Celebration

We put on our party hats today! My mother had a full night of great sleep which has not happened in quite a while and we got to celebrate my husband, David’s, 44th birthday.  Happy Birthday Honey!!

Finally, a day of celebration.  Thanksgiving and Christmas have just passed but during both holidays, my mom was in the Christus St. Vincent hospital in Santa Fe, New Mexico which added stress and concern both times.

This time, she might not have been able to help prepare in the kitchen or even sing at the table with us but she was at least under the same roof.

Celebrating the little things.  Mother’s Day 2015 will be on day 152. Now that celebration…That will be a BIG ONE!

Making memories~

Jennifer

Have you called your mother today? Day 20 of 152…Forgive or Forget

Saturdays.  For some, a day of leisure. For some, a day of labor. Just any other day to many others. On this particular Saturday we received confirmation. Confirming news that my mother will get to leave Christus St. Vincent’s hospital in Santa Fe, New Mexico after receiving a stent in her arteries and go home. Again.

We are thankful for her release because we know that will lift her spirits. We also received confirming news on further test results. Results that answer so many questions regarding attitudes, hurts…pain that resulted in ill behavior by many of us.  All forgiven. Now, what to do with the new results? Continue to forgive or forget? Both.

Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked,”Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”

Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

Making memories~

Jennifer

Have you called your mother today? Day 22 of 152… A Time To Refresh

Create a time to refresh~not just the toes
Create a time to refresh~not just the toes

It’s a treat not to have to call my mother on days when I get to sit right beside her and have meaningful conversations face to face.  I enjoy not having to discuss her medical condition all the time.  Today we enjoyed a little girl time.  I was able to give her a mini-pedicure. I haven’t done that in thirty years!

She keeps flexing her toes to admire the freshly shaped nails and color.  All girls enjoy having pretty toes! Right? Right!

I have several friends who remember spending the night with me when I was younger who also remember painting my mother’s toenails at the sleepover.  Funny! I wonder how she bribed us into doing that?

New goal-Spend more time with my girls painting toenails…not at the spa but at home.  Create time..time to cleanse, time to refresh…not just the toes.

Once again. Memories. They settle in so deeply that you forget about them for years until a tiny wisp brings them back up for air. Could it be an angel fluttering by? My imagination would like to think so.

Making memories~

Jennifer

 

Have you called your mother today? Day 14 of 152…The Fine Art of Taking Control

A little frustration set in today.  Not with me but with my mother.  My brother and I were trying to get her medications lined out for the week in her pill containers. She, of course, wanted to be in control.

My siblings and I have been rotating taking care of her.  It is currently my younger brother, John’s, week. We were on the phone trying to figure out things that would be much easier to handle if we were together, in person, handling these things.

But, now, during this season in our life, we are buckling down and doing what we need to do, what we have to do, how we can.  My mother on the other hand insists that she can handle it all and does not need our help.

She has always been one of the most independent people I know.  She has never wanted anyone to do anything for her. It’s a fine art giving up control of the things you once did so easily and it’s also a fine art of taking over the things someone once took for granted.

As I decorated a set of bookshelves tonight over my desk, I positioned each book, decorative piece, and candlestick perfectly..or perfectly in my perspective.  I’ll know if anyone has moved them or disturbed them.  I get that from my mother.  She loves to decorate and when she feels good (like me) there is a place for everything and everything has it’s place. A control thing.

But in the end, do the bookshelves even matter? Do the pill containers even matter? No. What matters is that we have someone there to help us. What matters is that we are not alone. Don’t wait until the end to give control up to God; to get your priorities straight. It’s a fine art. But it’s easier than you think.

Making memories~

Jennifer

Have you called your mother today? Day 12 of 152…I Admit, I Didn’t

Well, I didnt.  I didn’t call her. IT WAS THE FIRST DAY I DIDN’T CALL HER!!!! The challenge was to call your mother every day until Mother’s Day 2015.  For me, there were 152 days until Mother’s Day when I started my challenge.  The count may have been different for you.  So, I missed a day.  I have talked to her more than once on many other days.  Not that that counts.  I did miss a day.  But I’m not quitting.  I’m not giving up on the challenge. I’m not giving up on my mother, this blog or this…This commitment.

It was a Friday. The day I didn’t call my mother was a Friday.  I almost made it two full weeks.  That is 14 days of the challenge. But on this particular Friday the kids once again got out of school for early dismissal because of Christmas break.  This time however, I drove my oldest out of town, my middle one needed to be picked up extra early because he could not handle the unstructured end of school environment (he has autism, or Aspergers rather) and my youngest invited her three besties to spend the night with us to watch her dance recital. Just a typical day at the Taylor House.

In the middle of all of that, David took our iphones in to AT&T to be updated and I had no service for a couple of hours…yes, while at the dance recital with four girls.  I was stressing.  What was that I said yesterday?

Embrace the moments…?!…?!…

I was definitely enjoying all the dancing and all the laughter.  Time was flying by.  I would not have traded it for the world.  As the clock was ticking, I knew that as each minute passed I was missing a chance to talk to my mother before she fell fast asleep for the evening.

I was thankful that I had talked to her only yesterday and that it had not been days or weeks or even months.  She knew what the day held for me.

So if you haven’t called your mother today and you aren’t too busy to stop and do so.  Do so.

Making memories~

Jennifer

 

Have you called your mother today? Day 1 of 152 … The 152 Day Challenge

In March 1876, Alexander Graham Bell‘s words, “I want to see you” were clearly understood for the first time over the telephone.  Since that time, technology has come a long way.  Almost full circle. A digital circle in a sense.  Back to the days of the telegraph.  The digital telegraph world through texting with one liners, dots and dashes that can be misleading, misinterpreted, misunderstood, even misspelled.  But words, once said, once heard, carry such powerful meaning.  They touch. They tickle.  They hurt.  They heal.  They are firm. Permanent. So why not make them meaningful? Be intentional.

I plan on being intentional.  I have challenged myself with a purpose. A goal. A reason to use meaningful words. I have a lot of catching up and making up to do.  I am embarrassed to admit this but I have not only gone days, weeks, months but actually a year without speaking to my mother.  Yes, you read that right.  I went a whole year without speaking to my mother.  It may not have been 365 actual calendar days but it certainly felt like it to both of us and it was definitely close to 365 days give or take a few.  That was years ago and we too, thank goodness, have come a long way as well.

After spending the past 23 days taking care of her during a terrible congestive heart failure scare, I realize now more than ever how quickly things can change.  Don’t wait until tomorrow to say the things or do the things you want to do today.

While staying with her, we watched the movie Julie and Julia THREE times. The movie is what inspired this challenge.  I look forward to calling my mother every day.  But like Julie,  I need to have a goal to follow through with my task.  So, I chose Mother’s Day 2015 which is only 152 days away at the time of this post.  Which means I will get to talk to her at least 152 times before this task is completed. We will both be very proud!  What a great gift to her and to me!

On a side note:To count down from 152 sounds depressing or even morbid to me. I would rather count up.  There could always be another goal, another Mother’s Day, another Thanksgiving, another Christmas….

So if you are reading this blog, stop now.  Go call your mother. Do not text her or email her… CALL HER!

Making memories~

Jennifer

 

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